ATTN: This is a post specially to all girls who are having issues placing trust in guys. So, it may offend a certain individuals but please do not be too sensitive about it because these are just my views based on my own experiences and observations.
El and I have tacit understanding when it comes to trust issues with guys. Well, I can totally understand that based on her past relationships because distrust is all that it takes to kill this thing called ‘love’. If you think love is powerful enough to make everything better, then I can tell you that faith is even more powerful to break everything apart.When everything is shattered, it leaves permanent scars with you forever.It’s a permanent damage, it’s not just a temporary phase that you go through in your life, it’s something which fades away from you once trust has been abused for so many times.
Frankly speaking, I do have issues placing my trust in guys too, especially guys at my age because I know that we are all still young and most of us love options, and guys love a life with different love experiences and not just one life with one love experience. I know, many of my guys' friends hold the thought that they are still young, so they have tones of fishes in the water. Even if a guy loves you now, it doesn’t hold anything to your future.I'm in no position to criticize anything about it and I do respect their decision but it doesn't mean that I agree with it.
This was what my best guy friend told me sometime ago:
“Guys are greedy and selfish sometimes, they prefer choices but not one firm decision. They may love you but at the same time they are reluctant to let go of the others. They may love you but at the same time they also like ambiguity with other girls. This is just the way things are.”
Mind you that this wasn’t my idea, this was from a guy’s perspective, so I wasn’t assuming anything from a girl’s point of view. On top of that, I’ve witnessed so many real life examples in which fairy tales crashed down with reality and created a lot of girls like me who do not have much trust in guys. To me, trust is just a word, it means nothing until you work your promise. Commitment is trash if you are going to break it someday. I don’t say this because I hate guys, but I’ve seen uncountable break-ups among my friends, it’s like everyone gives promises so easily until it’s not about achieving it or not, but it’s more about the to-do things you do for a person when you are in love. At my age, at my point of view, it feels like everyone is not responsible for anyone anymore so long that the feeling for each other at that moment is right. If you don’t like, then just break up and change another girl to cut down all the pain.
They've proven to me on how fragile love can be once the so called 'feeling' is gone. Everything happened before is nothing comparable to 'feeling'. All the words said will be washed down to the sink when 'feeling' is gone, and that includes commitment, trust as well as promises. If so, why care so much about the promises made? I think I've had enough of it.