Coping with stress and depression

Some people ask me how I manage my depression and stress, I would say I spend time alone when I'm truly upset.Call me a lonely ranger when I’m in depression, because that’s how I get rid of the sadness and disappointment. I love to keep some time for myself to release the stress and do things that I’m comfortable with to relax myself. Also, I realized that no one loves to hear rants, so I’ll try to keep them to myself as much as possible.Trust me, I really don’t want to hurt your ears if I could.

One of the reasons I remain silent when I’m depressed is also to avoid lies. I really dislike people talking to me perfunctorily, how they pretend to care for me when they don’t seem to care much. I'd rather not fall for the lie ‘it’s ok, you’ll be fine’ when things are in a complete mess and it’s not a one-day thing to resolve it. I'd rather accept the truth than being deceived by the layer and layer of lies people make, because they create an illusion and make me feel good for their lies, and demand more in return. I’d rather keep quiet than create a situation to push people saying something that I wish to hear.

It’s better if they skipped the process because I won’t blame you for doing that. So, don’t talk if you have nothing better to say. I don’t believe that perfunctory greeting by some friends will help much, because it’s perfunctory, it lacks the sincerity. Sometimes companion is more powerful because your companion shows your concern to a person. For example, I rather have people to lend me their shoulder when I’m depressed or share some funny jokes with me than repeating sentences like ‘don’t worry, you’ll be fine’, ‘ it’s ok, don’t think too much’ etc. There are obviously better things that can be done to make someone feel better.

I believe that you are the one who understands yourself the best, therefore the best way to cope with stress and depression is to do what makes you feel comfortable. You may cry, hang out, sing out loud, watch a comedy, eat, dance, sleep or anything else which can lighten your day even by a bit. It’s not a must to tell out your problems, but it’s necessary to have a channel to locate these ‘excess’ emotions. You don’t need forever to deal with depression, but getting some time off the things that remind you of the source of depression will be good.

I know this is a stressful period for my peers from far far away, so let’s walk through it and we will prevail.

Walk through the path of life with you guys.


*p/s: it is very comfortable btw, thank you. ^_^